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Planning a wedding in a place called The Hope

Don’t worry, I’m back! 6 October 2009

Filed under: frock,fynbos,honeymoon,Things I love,weekend away wedding (WAW) — hoopfulbride @ 12:03 pm



And married… how blissful!

To answer the Two Burning Questions:

Question One: Was it the best day of my life?

For starters, I think that makes life pretty restricted. I’ve had some incredible days to date and hope to have many more.

One thing is for sure, though, I will always think back to our wedding weekend with a glow and a grin. It was a time full of love and laughter and beauty. There were numerous times Rooster and I looked at each other and laughed a disbelieving guffaw at just how perfectly fabulous everything had turned out (and when I say “perfect”, I don’t mean “soperfectthatnothingwentwrongever”… I just mean that it was so joyful we couldn’t believe it was happeneing to us!).

Question Two: Where was the honeymoon?

Romantic, mystical, gorgeous (and there are a lot of gorges around as well) Victoria Falls.

We spent 4 nights in the bush at Matetsi Private Game concession on the Zimbabwian side of the magestic Zambezi, where we were treated like royalty! We slept and ate and went on game drives and unsuccessfully fished for tiger fish and wallowed in our memories of the WAW.

And we finished the week off in the marvellous and ridicuously colonial Victoria Falls Hotel… in the honeymoon suite (of course), which prompted many knowing smiles from the staff.

This time too is amongst the happiest times of my life…


oh! PS on the Frock 2 July 2009

Filed under: being thrifty,frock — hoopfulbride @ 2:50 pm

I do feel a tad uneasy about spending loads on a frock (no matter how seriously gorgeous) that I will only wear once (my dress costs R9800 – the equivalent of about US$1255). HOWEVER I have two (clearly very clever) solutions to quell my  unease:

Class of 2009 Party

I’m friends with a bevvy of beautiful brides (gotta love an alliteration) who have married (or are getting married) in 2009. It is the time of our lives when we all seem to succumb to the marriage thing. At first I was a little put out about being part of a trend (a position i have seldom, if ever, found myself in), but then I embraced it.

We call ourselves Bridal Class of 2009 and after wedding planning is over, my next project (a joint one) will be to plan a big Bridal Class of 2009 Party in December where we will all get to dress up in our frocks again (more than one wear… I like it) and there will be a party with many brides and many grooms: Hilarious! Also, in the spirit of “one bride’s trash is another bride’s treasure”, we will play “secret santa” with our worst/most quirky gift. I can’t wait… No doubt I will keep you in the loop about Class of 2009 preparations once I am married.

Dress = piece of art

Don’t be ridiculous, I have NO intention of displaying my dress around my home other than in a couple of tasteful photos from the day… uggh. I always get an uneasy feeling about obviously displayed wedding memorabilia – it’s a tad desperate in a Miss Haversham kind of way.

BUT my frock does incorporate a very large and beautiful print of a hand-painted blushing bride protea. I plan to have the panel with the print removed and framed so that the print CAN be hung up on our walls and nobody will ever know its significance other than Rooster and me (and those who attended the wedding, obviously). Clever, huh? The obvious flaw in this plan is that I have to avoid spilling red wine on the panel with the print. And knowing me, the odds are pretty high that I may not avoid this pitfall.

Anyways, because the dress has masses of panels of the most beautiful raw silk, I can still have a full skirt from the remaining panels. I intend dying the resultant dress some beautiful colour for repeat wearing.



Fabulous Frock! 30 June 2009

Filed under: fabulous friends,frock,fynbos,Uncategorized — hoopfulbride @ 3:56 pm

Firstly, I call it a frock because i like the word. Frock has attitude. Dress (unfortunately) is a tad dreary.

Secondly, an apology: I collected the pics of frocks I love and have re-posted below more than 6 months ago, so I’m afraid I can’t credit them. Will appreciate any help in this regard, but I’d rather share than not just because of my faulty memory. (This whole problem is partly because I’m from a place where most wedding dresses on the internet are either not available or become prohibitively expensive to ship. So when brides in the “north” see a dress on the internet they can actually track one down (most of the time). Us CT brides mainly look to the Internet for inspiration and then find a designer to make it. There are a FEW boutiques who import, but it costs about the same as having one made.)

Frock search started with The Green Dress: a seriously HOT frock from Marion and Lindie which i bought for a formal work dinner in 2007 that is (thus far) the most perfect dress for me. The Green Dress is so hot is defies dreariness, so I can happily eschew “frock” for “dress”. From the moment I clamped eyes on it, I felt like that dress had been made for Saartjie-Sar. So, I knew my wedding dress would take a LOT of inspiration from The Green Dress (who wouldn’t want EVEN more hotness?)…

These were also my inspiration:



dress 7

I particularly LOVED the one below – the pockets!

dress 2

dress 6

You’ll note my love of v-necklines and billowing skirts (a feature of The Green Dress): I am a pear, but i have great cleavage, so these styles show off the bust and flatter the hips/bottom…

So, a month into my engagement, I was happily collecting inspiration and asking around for talented designers/dressmakers when fate stepped in: (it was dramatic)

My nyc mateys (some I met here, some I met in nyc when i lived there for a few months in 2004) were in all town for a wedding in December last year. One Saturday morning we met for brunch at a good friend’s cafe and went for a wonder past the shops in the road after our harissa eggs (or whatever delicious concoction she fed us that morning).

I casually glanced into the window of a particular store (Lunar) and there she was: a raw silk frock with a giant blushing bride (type of fynbos) picture hand-painted onto the skirt! Now bear in mind that at this stage I had not been engaged long. And that Rooster and I had not formally discussed fynobos themed weddings at all: we were just enjoying being engaged and drinking all those bubbles. But that dress just cried out to be tried on: I knew it, my nyc mateys knew it and The Flautist (also at brunch) knew it.

Here she is (sorry for small pic):

The Dress

Huh? Jeepers, creepers it is beautiful. Here’s a pic of me looking suitably excited and amazed at my incredible luck in said frock:


But, Internet, you’ll notice one problem: the neckline – no sexy clevage in that frock. Or the one above… which turns out is not actually such bad news after all, because that flower is a print taken from a hand-painting and not the hand-painting itself! Which meant that the dress can be made to order to incorporate the little quirks that are perfect for me.

My fabulous frock is currently being constructed by the marvellous Karen (seriously marvellous.) from Lunar… with a v-neck and pockets!!! The process of having a dress made for me by an amazing designer is sublime – it is truly an amazing experience to have a dress made from scratch based on my body. She has taken no measurements, just pinned and tacked on my body: at each fitting that frock sits even more beautifully on my frame.

And that, is the story of my fabulous frock, which i love even more each time i see it…