Let’s explain one thing: My fiance’s parents are not poor. This year they took the whole family skiing in France for two weeks (lucky us) before jaunting around Europe for a month or two. They’ve travelled around the world (literally) a number of times. They have shares in a private island off Mozambique, an amazing apartment in a super swish area of London and own one of the most impressive holiday houses that exists in the Garden Route of SA. They have their own private jet!
And their home is magnificent! Let’s put this in context: the scene from Blood Diamond that is shot in Cape Town at the main dealer’s home in the middle of the winelands was shot right NEXT DOOR to their house (at a famous wine farm). They live in one of the original manor houses built in the Cape in the 16/1700s and probably the only one lived in by private people. It is beautifully preserved and loved and although my Rooster’s folks are wealthy, they are exceptionally lovely, not-flash people.
In short, their home is The Perfect Wedding Venue. Rooster’s three sisters got married there. His one sister’s sister-in-law and his brother-in-law’s best friend also get married there. When people see it they fantasize about getting married there!
Some pictures to illustrate just how bloody perfect it is:
But we are not getting married there… We’ve been called crazy and at times we’ve felt a tad ungrateful, but we both felt a tiny bit funny about having our wedding there. You see, even though both set of parents and ourselves are contributing financially, we still feel that a girl’s wedding is “hosted” by her parents – if only symbolically. So holding our wedding at his parent’s home might have felt like we were taking that away from my parents.
Luckily, we did not have to worry about this as we found The Perfect Alternative in the place we got engaged!!!
De Hoop Nature Reserve is starkly beautiful and is chockers with amazing old buildings. How we love nature and history and De Hoop has both. As wondered around with the silly grins of a newly engaged couple we were struck by just how perfect a place De Hoop was to have a party! At first we chatted about holding my 30th there (next January), but then we saw these beauties:
I mean, howfrikkinbeautiful??? There are two enormous fig trees in a big square (used to be used to keep the farm animals enclosed and safe from the wild animals) and as we saw them we simultaneously imagined getting married under those big figs. It hasn’t all been smooth sailing with regard to organising our venue (we are the first wedding there since it has been taken over by new management!), but we are so excited to be married at De Hoop!
Finally, there is something auspicious about the name of the place: De Hoop means The Hope (not a tricky dutch translation that!). Now I ask you, what more than hope can a girl and boy want to be surrounded by (okay, okay – love, community, peace etc are also essential) when they tie the knot?